Are we Losing Patience?

IN a constant desire to win and dominate there is something really important we are losing on. Imagine, being stuck in a seemingly endless traffic jam, or standing in a long queue at ATM…we sigh and murmur to ourselves, “What the heck is going on?”

We just don’t have time! So we get irritated and annoyed. Exasperated, we start cursing the way things are, disregarding the fact that we are also a part of this whole chaos.

However, this was not the scenario even a few decades ago. Times were when we used to just sit and talk to our family, or friends, or even pets for that matter. But today, we are all so messed up in meeting deadlines, chasing desires, that we just don’t have time.
Do you realize what are we losing?
It’s PATIENCE!

Where is all the tolerance gone?
Are we falling prey to our own ambitions, our craving to get more in least possible time?
It’s a topic worth dwelling on! Think of the last time when you watched TV patiently, without flicking channels for half an hour. There is hardly an instance to tell.

Impatience is creeping rapidly down inside our psyche. You agree or don’t agree we have lost our power to keep calm. All we want is to dictate everything around us, to have them move and act anyway we want. But unfortunately, we cannot alter the predestined scheme of things.
But still, we try only to realize how foolish we are. We feel more frustrated, anxious and futile. Such feelings make way for impatience.

Now, the question is, ‘How do you expect us to keep perseverance in midst of turmoil?’
Fair enough! We are human beings, not god. We are bound to give up patience under sufferings. That’s the best we can do.

Sorry, but I don’t agree! That’s not the best we can do. Let me tell you this, we can all learn to be more patient. Even the most impatient person can master this skill by exercising some mind control. Idea of cultivating patience revolves around respecting acts and opinions of others.
Sometimes in a futile attempt to attain this state of mind, we put meditation, yoga or spirituality into practice. Yet everyday we see ourselves at swords with our patience on trifling matters, too insignificant to be even mentioned here.

Surrendering to your undue demands is no solution. Acknowledge your flaws. Don’t let impatience take its toll on your mind and body. Get real, talk to yourself, find logics (appearances can be deceptive at times), and visualize positive things.

Give it a thought guys! Developing patience just calls for a desire to change. So, next time when you find yourself at the tipping point of losing patience indulge in some self-control.

I'm at War

Life is a war zone,

And I’m at war!

A war with myself,

A struggle within my shell

Striving to shed the shackles of fear

Blistering within me,

Stoned by the ice cold melancholy;

Strewn here and there...

Why can’t I feel free?

Blinded by the billowing haze;

of dread and anxiety,

I’m turning into a numskull

With my hands held empty,

I’m wedged in a seemingly endless tunnel.

Will someone ever staunch this pain?

O divine redeemer!

Release me from this worldly ordain.

Let me cut loose-

the strings of endless deluge,

Of suffering and death

Allow me come in your refuge…

Hunched with sins, I’m drifting towards my pyre

The chisel of agony is shredding my vigor

Slick with blood, it has pierced my heart

Bit by bit, it has torn me apart.

But now, I’m weary of quarrelling;

with my perceptions, with my ailing...

Burning every moment in the fire of fears

Too fierce to be quenched with tears

O divine redeemer!

Rekindle my soul, cease the fire

burning within me

And set me free from the world, so loony…

- by Rupali

Why It Happens??

Why It Happens????????
why it happens? why it happens?
why someone seem to be so special,
why this life becomes so crucial,
why eyes are so desperate to see something,
why lips tremble to say something,
why breath stops when eyes encounter,
why it happens that i keep on thinking,
when he is with me my eyes stop blinking,
why it seems that i'm the body and he is the soul,
why my emotions spill out of control,
why eyes get watery when he is not near,
why he is so close to heart why he is so dear,
why heart wish to sacrifice for him everything,
why mind wishes for his well being,
why, i dont know ,i have answers to these why's
But I think it's the world of love where my heart flies....

All that matters is trust

“Trust” is not just a five letter word, it is an emotion that fortifies every relationship. Love alone is too scanty to strengthen a bond. For a relationship the acid test is not how much do we love, but how much do we trust.

We need to trust our kids, our partner, our parents, our fellows, or even our pets for that matter. Any time you lose trust in a relationship, it will never be the same again. You can’t trust everyone all the time, agreed. But don’t let such conviction poison your otherwise well-honed rapport with others. Trust is akin to a crystal vase, once it is shattered, it’s broken for good.

When I look back on my own experience, I realize what I have lost due to suspicion. It’s like a cancer that has no cure. It destroys happiness and ruins relations.

Jealously is another negative trait which indicates that trust is weak. While on one hand it corrodes trust, it also encourages other negative emotions like anger, melancholy, greed, envy and in worse cases criminal tendencies. You probably are aware of all this, just that you refuse to acknowledge. But why?

Let’s not live in denial…let’s face it!

We feel jealous to see our mate talking closely with a friend, to see our parents showering love on others, it seems almost impossible to control our feelings. We all live a false sense of possession and insecurity.

My husband often comes late, is he dating some other woman?

Why my girlfriend keeps looking at other attractive guys. Don’t I look good?

Such questions are nothing, but a figment of our jealousy and distrust. Try to trust. Don’t let assumptions drive you to the edge, find reasons. Don’t jump to conclusions just because YOU-FELT-THAT-WAY.

For love to survive trust is a must and jealousy, under no circumstances, should creep in.

Whenever suspicion raise its head, nip it on the bud! Revive and rebuild trust in your relationships, no matter with whomsoever. Try to look at things in a wider perspective,

escape that tunnel vision. Open up to the close because you deserve to live an unencumbered life, free from such harrowing feelings.

Put the past behind you see the vast space around you. Open your mind so that trust can grow.

When I met a Little Angel

When day breaks and we get out of our comfy beds, with due gratitude we must bow our heads to god for making us fortunate enough to live and relish the laurels of life.

Accustomed to daily routine, everyday we gear up to reach our respective destinations. While a few have some specific end, others merely stray directionless. Meddled in some chores or perhaps just pretending to, every one is busy in a rat race. But even then everything seems so usual, so complete in way…

Life moves at its regular pace for most of us. But, deserts do exist beyond our green pastures; it’s just that they are overlooked by our money-blinded eyes.

For me it was yet another fine day when something bizarre caught my sight.

He was a little kid maybe just a couple of years old, wandering at traffic signal…mopping the cars with a filthy piece of cloth.

It was Delhi in month of June, mercury soaring as high as 46 ‘ C. when we could just think of resting in our air-conditioned rooms, snoozing in our double cushioned beds, and sipping a cold drink or lemonade, that tiny tot was cleaning riches’ big wagons. He was naked feet and cocooned barely in rags.

Sitting in my car I could clearly see those countless dreams brewing in his hopeful eyes, that innocent smile complemented by a placid expression on his face. He literally captured my mind for a while.

As he was moving closer to people, I saw that twinkle brighten in quest of a few coins…which meant world to him.

But then I witnessed the brutal death of his delight. Pitilessly the well-off’s hurried their windows on him. He protested gratuitously to slide down the windowpane, his little fingers got stuck in the gaps, panting to be released, but nobody bothered.

I was wondering at the irony of life. That one coin, which probably holds no value for us, perhaps meant a meal to him. His starving eyes got stuck at a fortunate kid, almost his age, gulping cola and munching chips in his air-conditioned car. Probably he too wants a taste of same…but then who is going to buy him all this??? That’s the fate he was born with!

He was dying every moment!!! Poverty engulfed his every little desire. He was entrapped in this vicious circle for good. His wings were tattered before he could even spread them out. Misfortune snatched his clothes, his shoes, his education and even his life. He fell prey to his own destiny.

All did he knew was to stretch out his hands begging for little money or some food. Disregarded as a lifeless louse by the so called humans, he was fighting every moment for his survival. Born in a ruined shack, he was nurtured by poverty. He might have played with some used toys, discarded by those more fortunate than him.

My heart was brimmed with a strange feeling of empathy for him. It was such a profound feel, I could actually feel his plight.

I was deeply engrossed in my own thoughts when a blaring car horn startled me, calling my attention towards the green signal. The race was on again. Once more, people begun to rush towards their respective ways, paying no heed to that little boy.

Standing aloof under the shade of tree…he was waiting for that green light to turn red again. I was really touched! Barely able to hold my feelings I headed towards him. He looked at me with a big question in his eyes…..Why me?

But I had no answers. I went to him and slipped a few coins in his hand. He said nothing, but left me with a cold blank stare…

I'll be Lost Without you..

I was pacing alone on my way
My life was sinister, my shadow betrayed
Almighty unanswered my cries, my prays
But u came like an angel on one fine day
You revived those ecstasies I buried long back
You made paradisal my ruined shack
You became the reason for me to live
You changed my destiny, gave love to me
It was all so empty….It was all so cold
Dawn strike the day when you came to hold
Timid and frightened …I was standing at bay
And then it was you who came and promised to stay
Your one tender touch…quenched my pains
I was a barren land and you sprinkled the rains
It amazes me how some one can make me feel this way
I love you more and more with each passing day
You are always on my mind
You have made me blind
A glance of yours make my heart skip a beat
When you are with me….I feel complete
I love the way you look at me
Was it destiny? Yah...
I think it was meant to be
I feel u so close…even when u r not around me
The fragrance of your breath…always surround me
My heart thumps faster…when it hears your name
You took me over completely…u have made me insane
I love you my baby….I love u like crazy
A mere thought of urs make me feel cozy
My feelings are genuine and my love is true
Please stay by me or I will b lost without u